8hunter6's Journal, 25 May 16

We all know that if you're not ready, you're not ready. She may come back to you when she's got her inner motivation geared up. Let her ask. I know that people get touchy. I had a friend ask (I've lost 50 lbs.) only to get horrified at the thought of eating the way I do. She just isn't ready to give up sugar and bread. 

When I don't see one of my favorites,,,you!,,,,,post for awhile I go looking to see when you last posted. I found where you were quitting smoking. It's hard. It took me at least ten tries before I did it. I just never quit trying to quit and it finally took! My doctor said,it was the best thing I could do for my health BUT now it was time to lose the weight I gained over time. So...we both will lose pounds and you will keep trying to quit smoking because you know you can do it and so do I. 

I don't lie to my fiends, that's why they come to me for advice. I'm not mean about anything but I surly won't lead them astray because I love them... she said she was working on her weight but it was going slowly... she was put on blood pressure medication at 30... so yes I am worried for her. so because she said it was slow I offered to tell her what I was doing ...but i guess she didn't want to know, her choice... I just... want her to be ok. but you can lead a horse to water and all that. maybe she just legit doesn't give a rats ass about what or how I'm doing... I don't know. I've been away from home for years now, maybe it's hard to keep a real connection with people after so long........... but ya I don't think she actually wants to commit to a plan, she has been heavy the whole time I've known her. and I did listen to her stories for the whole time until my 3 sentences about what was going on with me...whatever, if she doesn't want to discuss what's going on with me or her thoughts of weightloss... so be it............ at least I have all of you wonderful people :D  

red... that might be it actually she has always been competitive with me...even trying to get my own mother on her side all the time. wow I forgot about all that!! huh.... well in that case I guess she did me a favor cause I don't need competition... that's not what I'm about.  

I go about my business as usual, some people notice and engage, others notice and ignore, but one thing I know for sure about all the people where I live, they've noticed. I don't worry about the detractors, I could win the freaking lotto and they would still criticize, some people just suck.  

ya... I'm just going to keep it to myself like before... no one really bothers to call/text/message anymore so they don't need to know about it... non of them. it's kinda funny that I feel closer to people on here than those I've known for more than half my life ... Or my whole life. it's like when I moved, I died. so ill stay dead....  

Oh and as for the smoking.... I started when I was 11... when I could lol.. regular smoker at 13. and I quit when I got pregnant at 27... I didn't smoke through pregnancy or breastfeeding. ... but once the boobs quit on me after 9 months I occasionally smoked.... and then once in a while would buy a pack... I've quit like 20 times since after breastfeeding LOL ... but the vape helps. sometimes I need a higher nicotine level, others a lower... but it's helping.  

Hunter, glad you are back! Everyone asks me what I have been doing to lose weight and when they discover it requires something more than taking a pill, they shiver and say....."Oh, I could never do that!" Everyone wants the magic wand, the miracle pill, the no effort shortcut...actually, I can't think of anything that takes less effort for me. Fasting....it's free, reduces your grocery bill, less cooking, less cleaning, less chewing, less weight! Ha! #Winwin1000timesover OMG, I've caught Jimmiepops hashtag fever! 

Lol Jimmiepop ... Sexy librarian is Hunter! 

:D Let's see: Librarian, glasses, tattoos, motorcycles, leather... I better quit here. 

Is she a thin chick? quitting eating is more stressful than quitting smoking. I quit some years ago, and since then have literally doubled my body weight. I quit cold turkey. It was so hard I'd sit and cry and not want ANYONE around me. I couldn't do anything I did that was cigarette related.. It was hard to fight the urge, but easy to not be around smokers. My new addiction became food... and this.. is a much harder habit to break.. She may think that right now what she's going through is rougher than your journey... She may think it's ridiculous to compare weight loss to quitting smoking.. So I ask if she's a thin chick because maybe she doesn't know this struggle.... Maybe in a couple years, ya'll will be talking again about her next addiction...  

**more stressful, in my opinion*** 

Pickles. I think losing weight and keeping it under control is because it's an addiction, but it is also required to sustain life. Quiting smoking, you quit. Dieting? It's like taking a cigarette habit and restricting it to 3 smokes a day.  

Well she is very smart... she knows what she eats isn't good.... maybe she just isn't ready to take on the weight thing right now ... maybe she thinks it's hard enough to quit smoking right now. probably stupid of me to be even slightly offended when she stopped talking. she's my friend, not my enemy. distance and time aside she will always be my friend and I'll be here if she needs my help. I think I over reacted because I was already annoyed with something else.... she never said anything bad... I guess I thought since I wanted to know what she was up to she would return intrest... so now that I've had time to think... I think I was being selfish.  

@8H Getting in shape is SELFISH... in the best possible way. It's all good! #letsgo! #grindtime 

that short sentence, oddly enough, inspired me to actually work out lol ha ha ha thank you 

Yeah, baby! #librariangainz 

Don't let things like that bother you, if she is a true friend she'll come around You just keep up the good job you're doing!!!! 

I quit cold turkey at the worst possible time in my life so far it's been 19 years. You can do it. I was a 2 1/2 pack a day smoker. 

I quit cold turkey at the worst possible time in my life so far it's been 19 years. You can do it. I was a 2 1/2 pack a day smoker.