Love the positive energy coming from your journal. No matter how dark things seem, life is worth living.
24 Jun 11 by member: BuffyBear
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Hey buffy - thank you! yes, ...very worth living!
24 Jun 11 by member: jsfantome
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Yep your a giver to most people..Its nice to see you give to your self
as you are so worth it..And you know what who cares what others think
any way..We would probably be surprised how little people really do think of us..Hey they have their own little world to think about..Have
wonderful day my friend.....Bren
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Bren, you are so adorable. And so right... it just took me, oooohhh, 45 years to figure that out! LOL! Much Love.
24 Jun 11 by member: jsfantome
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I'm right there with you! I am trying to grow and change into something/someone who people will say is a nice person, a good person, a kind person - I want to walk in the light. I am honestly trying to find the good inside myself and focus on it, grow it, build upon it. This is not an easy task for me but one that I believe is worth it.
I am very thankful to have you and others like you in my life/mind/heart. You help me to stay on the path and know that I can come out the other side of this journey with a self love. I have honestly never experienced that feeling of loving myself and knowing I was beautiful inside and out. But i will :) Please know that you do have a positive effect on at least 1 persons life - mine.
24 Jun 11 by member: esimnons
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Thanks Elizabeth.. one down, only 6 1/2 billion to go! LOL! Seriously, when someone first told me this journey would not be about whether I ever eat fries again or not - I didn't think I needed that much work. I really, very arrogantly, thought this is going to be a snap! Well, it wasn't. But is was so worth the efforts. Used to not like me. Nonetheless love me. Couldn't look myself in the mirror without loathing what looked back! No, not kidding. I saw my pain. And I covered it up in ugly fatness. And was scared to death to peel away the layers. Even if the internet died tomorrow and we couldn't reach each other any more... NEVER FORGET - THAT YOU ARE WORTH IT! Whatever work you have to do, whatever efforts you put in, whatever struggles you perservere through... YOU ARE WORTH IT! Somedays I didn't believe that. But most days, I hung on for dear life to that. And now, I am a happier woman for it. Much Love.
24 Jun 11 by member: jsfantome
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You do continue to be an inspiration & very helpful to those of us struggling to lose...you've done so good.... sue
24 Jun 11 by member: srosky
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i hope that some day I get to feel as good as you do. You are helping so many of us that struggle daily with the negative feelings we let others instill in us. I spent too many years with someone who never saw any good in me. Finally I got the courage and left but he left me with all those self-hatred feelings. Here I am 14 years later and still trying to overcome every one of those hurtful things. Thank you for giving me the hope that someday I can love myself again.
24 Jun 11 by member: davidsmom
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Sue, thank you! We all struggle. And it's no surprise it's hard. But keep telling yourself there's a goldmine just under the surface... it makes the struggle a little easier!
24 Jun 11 by member: jsfantome
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That was beautiful to read. So was your response to esimnons. I'm glad you're one of my buddies. What you wrote is, I would say, my biggest goal and prob the hardest one to achieve. I hope to be able to write something like that someday in the near future. Or at least someday. i have HOPE. Thank you for posting such INSPIRATION.
24 Jun 11 by member: HerStrawberri
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Davidsmom - can I tell you something funny? I remember a truly painful time in my life when I used to say... I can be miserable all by myself. (if I was gonna be miserable - I'll take it alone any day.) YOU WILL one day feel every bit as good as I do... if you NEVER GIVE UP on YOURSELF! I see a tremendous amount of good in you, and I only know you over the computer. Don't hate yourself. If you have to, get a paid professional to help you walk thru this stuff... but by all means don't stay in the mindset that you need to 'hate yourself' over any of that old stuff. I understand, I really do... my hurts are over 25 years old... and still very deep - but the one thing I do know, is that I am CAPABLE OF CHANGE. And WOW! When I figured that out... I knew I was on to a new chapter in my life! One day you will love yourself again, I promise... but for today, find something you just like about you... and smile at yourself in the mirror... and tell yourself all about it! (I know it sounds korny - but it works!) Much Love.
24 Jun 11 by member: jsfantome
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Strawberry - you really touch my heart. You are such a lovely woman - and you don't even know it. Or you don't trust yourself enough yet to believe it! I see the way you encourage others. I see your glimmer... You are so close to a breakthrough that is going to set your world upside down...cause baby, you got this!! You really do... Rock On!
24 Jun 11 by member: jsfantome
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Thanks. I honestly find it helpful and sad that som many people on this site are going through or have been going through the same issues that I have. I love the fact that people can truely empathize with me but I hate that anyone has ever had to go through this painful process. I would love to blame my issues on a man. I have had some bad eperiences with men for sure. But the truth is, I am to blame for this. I have hated myself since I was a child. I am at fault and I can change myself. At least that is what I keep telling myself. :)
24 Jun 11 by member: esimnons
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jsfantome..you started a very positive string of comments. Nice to read. And Davidsmom I can relate...and I think by you chosing to change your WOE shows you think you are worth it and already on your way to moving past that. I believe you have to have a positive mental change to start taking care of yourself physically so congratulations! I think you are on your way.
24 Jun 11 by member: maw1966
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You're journal reminded me of a quote: “Down in their hearts, wise men know this truth: the only way to help yourself is to help others” - Elbert Hubbard We can truly grow spiritually and personally when we offer help to our fellow man. Some even think it is our whole reason for existence. What a beautiful transformation you have witnessed in yourself, and thank you for sharing.:)
24 Jun 11 by member: nolechick
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Thank you JS! and thank you for being YOU. Thank you for all the wonderful, encouraging things you post for me, for everyone else and for YOU. You truly ARE an inspiration and I'm so thankful i came to this site and have found so many wonderful people....you being at the top of the list. =)
24 Jun 11 by member: HerStrawberri
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Aawwww, Strawberri - love you too! Nole, LOVE the quote! thank you for your kindness. Maw, glad you joined us! And Eliz - if you ever want an ear to listen... I am here for you. But nothing you could have ever done as a child should cause you to hate yourself. Thank you for being here. For being honest. For working on yourself. Just thanks, for being my friend! Much Love.
24 Jun 11 by member: jsfantome
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:-D reading all this put the biggest smile on my face! Love it! All of you are such wonderful women!! Love to have like a fatsecret convention and all meet up hahaha
24 Jun 11 by member: NoChubbyMom
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Me too! :) We've been talking about it ... for a long time! Perhaps somewhere like Las Vegas, or Chicago ... as there are always AirFare Sales to those destinations! Or just somewhere smack in the middle of the country to make it as fair as possible. I don't know... but boy would it be fun!
24 Jun 11 by member: jsfantome
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I want to go on a cheap cruise. It could the the FS cruise into discovery :) I think we would have a blast :)
24 Jun 11 by member: esimnons
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