kickingcarbs's Journal, 22 Sep 21

Update on me and my daughter. The judge dropped the protective order due to not enough physical evidence. But I did get emergency full custody. We have our next hearing on October 28th to see about custody and visitation. I’m trying to gather enough evidence to ensure I keep my full custody without visitation. But court was horrible Monday. I needed time to reset. They made me feel like a horrible mom and basically my husband blamed me for everything. And his new girlfriend of course testified, and lied. Funny though that he admitted in open court he was going through withdrawals and even left the court room before the trial was over. He didn’t even know if he could see her and he left. I tried to make the judge take note of this. If he truly was worried about her and wanted to see her why did he leave? And why was he going through withdrawals? I can’t believe all this. So overwhelmed. But she is safe for now and in my full custody thank goodness. But the calls, text and emails harassing me have already started from him. I know it’s just going to get worse.

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Be sure to save all the evidence of him harassing you for the next court hearing to try to keep him from getting visitation. 
22 Sep 21 by member: Sara7200
Log the calls, date, time and message. Keep texts and messages, or if out of possible. 
22 Sep 21 by member: shirfleur 1
Are you doing this on your own without a lawyer? Shir is right, log it all, take screenshots of texts and make notes of all interactions. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. If you have a local women's shelter, they may be able to refer you to someone who can help you on an ability to pay basis.  
22 Sep 21 by member: Katsolo
Thank you everyone. I do have an attorney but he is very hard to reach sadly. I’m collecting evidence on my own and he looks it over minutes before court. I’m just not comfortable with that. This is me and my daughters lives and we need to be a priority. I’m making sure we are one before the next hearing. I’m using my resources available but I won’t lie this is a lot. And very overwhelming when all I want to do is just hold my baby girl and live our lives.  
22 Sep 21 by member: kickingcarbs
Good advice already given and you are probably doing each of those things. Judges like only evidence and by him harassing you, he is supplying it! Use it please! He is playing dirty and you don't have to be nice. 
22 Sep 21 by member: kattay
I'm praying for you. I would at least change my number, so you won't have to deal with the calls and maybe you can somehow block the emails 
22 Sep 21 by member: RN16
she needs the calls and voicemails to support her case. same with emails.  
22 Sep 21 by member: Katsolo
keeping you and your daughter in my thoughts and prayers 
22 Sep 21 by member: swallis7
They should require a guardian ad litem to look into what is best for the child. This person will look at your place and talk to you and go to his place and talk to him. They will talk to anyone that you ask them to talk to. Also you can try to request supervised visits with no overnights. Honestly it will be hard to cut out a parent that doesn’t want to walk away. Even if he treats you badly he still is the other parent. Not sure what state you are in. But Ohio is almost always called shared parenting even if one parent has more custody time. 
22 Sep 21 by member: keepgoing1234
Keeping you in my prayers. If you haven't already, get you and your daughter both in counseling. My ex used my boys as pawns for years. Just know it all eventually works itself out. I never talked bad about him. He did me all the time. When the boys would ask about it, I always said when they grew up they would see things for the way they are. They are adults now and neither one really has anything much to do with him now. 
22 Sep 21 by member: CrazyLupieLife
Hugs😔 
22 Sep 21 by member: CrazyLupieLife
So sorry you’re going through this. Keep being a great mama, the truth always comes to light! 
22 Sep 21 by member: kelc32
Sorry about my weird post, don't know what happened. Just have had a senior moment. 
22 Sep 21 by member: shirfleur 1
Thank you everyone for all the support. I truly love this community. I know none of this has to do with weight loss but the thing is it does for me. I shovel in sweets in order to deal with stress. Now that there aren’t any left in the house I at least can’t keep doing it every day.  
23 Sep 21 by member: kickingcarbs
sorry you're going through this. don't know if you pray, but I'll pray for you. And this most certainly has to do with weight loss. All lives stresses are (at least for me) what got us overweight in the 1st place. Good luck to you. Big hug 🤗 ❤  
23 Sep 21 by member: Ucrmom
Your girl is precious. Also, this does have to do with weight loss. Some of us eat due to stress. This is a bit stressful. If you've done your homework for Oct 28. You may feel less anxious as you've done everything you possibly can for your situation. Best of luck.  
08 Oct 21 by member: ACBelle

     
 

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