TheOneAfter909's Journal, 04 Oct 10

Yes, it can be very disheartening when differences aren't noticed. For the last 5 years, every time I went to my doctor, she complained that I need to lose weight. Then in a 3-4 month period, I lost 80 pounds, went back into the doctor and she never even noticed. I am up to 100 pounds gone and my own mother has not said anything. But the heck with them all, you are doing this for yourself and the next 70 lbs will result in "WOW, did you every lose a lot" comments. You are doing great, so don't stop now. Keep it up!! 

As geo says, the heck with them!! This person doesn't sound like someone that you should care what they think in the first place. one day soon, you will not only be thin, but healthy, and then you can look this person up and down. And geo is right, this is for you, your hubby, and your children, right? So don't worry about the uncaring, unfeeling, dodo at work. And I would love to see the comparison pics. I know we would notice the difference!! 

Let me guess, that person is a tiny thing? If they can't see that amount of a loss, then I would say they need glasses or they are totally blind. I would say that person isn't worth the time of day. I know it's hard, but ignore the snide comments. When you are skinny, then you can flont it in their faces. Sorry, I just don't take kindly to that kind of behavior. People like that are self-centered and aren't worth they aren't worth listening too. Sorry, I am rambling. You hang in there and keep up your fantastic journey. Also, nice weight loss. Keep it up:):) 

SEVENTY pounds and nearly 36 inches is positively awesome!!! I guess that person really hasn't been paying attention! As for their actions, comment, and attitude, well, it was just plain rude. DO NOT give this person the power to sabotage your frame of mind and/or your new way of eating!!! You are doing great - keep it up!  

Don't let it get you down. I am sure you are feeling blue right now so its easy to say - I can't see it. You can feel it though right? When you sit down I bet you can reach your shoes better and I bet you can even fit behind the steering wheel of your car easier etc. etc. I was 288 and lost over 50 lbs and no one really noticed. I droped from a 24 to an 18 before people started asking "are you losing weigh?" and then they would be shocked when I told them 70 lbs. The other day a man who works at our office came by my office. He poked his head in and asked "how are you doing it?" I have never met him before and I was like... doing what??? He said how are you losing all that weight? I laughed and told him I was doing lowcarb/atkins. He said that his daughter has been struggling with her weight - that she has lost about 25 pounds and he knows how hard it is. He said that he just wanted to stop by and say that it has been really cool watching how much I have changed. It felt great that a stranger noticed. I am sure there are people who can see the difference even if they are too shy to say something - plus some people are very private about their weight and sensitive and they may have been afraid to ask or say anything in case they offended you. You can't lose 70 lbs and it not show at all. I bet you look great! Don't be too hard on yourself. I have been a cry baby all day too - it's just a bad day - you will get through it. Hugs!!! 

you are doing awesome, just keep it up, dont let other people bother you, you know how well you are doing. Time will show, and I know when we are larger, it is harder to notice when we lose, especially when we wear the big baggy clothes and cover up all the time. Some people probably noticed and just didnt say anything, some people dont know what to say. I guess its better than the ones who are the first to tell you when you gain weight, as if we didnt already know that. Keep going just think what that next seventy lbs is going to look and feel like, by then you will have lost one whole person!!!!!  

Wow, some people really amaze me, they are so rude! 70 lbs!!! That is a huge accomplishment! You should be proud of yourself! 

Amanda's right, for every one jerkface who doesn't want to be supportive there are at least 3-4 others who have noticed & just not said anything. Don't take that personally, because weight IS a sensitive subject & the nice people don't want to say the wrong thing. When I got pregnant with my son I didn't have a cute little basketball pregnant belly. My whole body got pregnant. After giving birth & dropping a lot of the weight I remember getting a comment from a stranger who worked in my building who said, "hey, you've lost a lot of weight." When I told her I just had a baby she was so embarrassed. Imagine how I felt realizing this woman who had been kind enough to compliment me on my weight loss had spent the last 6 months or more thinking I was just getting fatter. You have made AMAZING progress...do you realize you have lost the equivalent of a 3rd grader??? I know you are still going to keep working at it, it's just kind of a crappy day so (((((((hugs))))))) to ya.  

the off handed comment about not noticing MAY not be why you think. my daughter was a tight size 20, in 8 months went down to a size 8, with diet change and exercise, her 'best friend" who was a size 18 didnt like it, became rude about my daughters new food choices and life style, sadly her friend ended the friendship, my ndaughter is heart broken about it, but still changing how shes living.... and becoming a nutritionist and personal trainer any way some hate to comment others. and dont diet for others, do it foe YOU!!! 

'manda, Sometimes people just don't think how the words they say really sound. That's no excuse for them, but consider the source.