Multiplicity1's Journal, 29 Apr 10

So proud of you Andrea....it took me a long time before I felt and knew I didn't have to be perfect,that was my failure,if it wasn't straight perfect in all ways,the devil came out and you know what happens then God din't makes us perfect but let you tell you,the successes you are having is a credit to your mindset.Its a learning curve honey,thats what it is and once we accept the mistakes,challenges we makes the changes that will spell success,and believe me you are very successful otherwise you wouldn't have gotten a grip on this devil called excss weight.Keep up the great work,you are a inspiration.You want to know someting,I'm successful wo perfection and loving it 

Boy,am I going to catch it for phrases and spelling LOL Its my age LOL 

Hey, I know exactly what you are saying. But - and I hesitate to say this because I don't want to come across too strong - YOU MUST BREAK DOWN THIS DEFEATEST ATTITUDE! Maybe in the past you did feel the way you described! But honey you have lost 30 lbs!!! That is not easy. Not for a fat person or a skinny one! It takes a lot of work, and alot of commitment, perserverance, and determination! Alot of reminding yourself what you are doing and why! And you are succeeding at it! And on top of all of that - you are absolutely right. Success is NOT perfection - and none of us will ever be perfect. But the next 3 months will go by just as quickly as the last 3 - and you HAVE TO remind yourself - every minute of every day - (if necessary) that YOU are the only YOU God ever created and YOU are worth doing this for! I know for a fact if I had just dropped the weight in the first 6 months I wouldn't be here - and I wouldn't be thin. I needed to really address my mindsets, break old habits, completely change physically my nutrition and my body's fuel - none of which was going on in the beginning with me. Now, 16 months later - I am 2/3rds of the way to my goal. I have lost 40 w/ 20 to go! And it's going...slowly...and I am just fine with that! p.s. - next time you feel embarrassed talking to or with a friend about your food/way of eating - remember this moment. Make a decision today that there is nothing wrong with you dictating to you what you can and cannot have. Do not let shame rest on your doorstep. Be proud of the fact that you have made a life changing decision - it is working for you - and you would greatly appreciate their support. I am sure they will come through for you (if they are really your friend.) Love Ya - Paula 

Sounds like me with the Starbucks my co-worker bought me last week. We all need to learn to stand up for ourselves. No one can take care of our needs but us. And, by the way, I like you for who you are, not what you want to be. 

Thanks Mary Ellen, Paula and Keli! 

Andrea we all take those steps back and hopefully they become less and less. I used to weigh in and if I lost I would reward my self with food, how crazy is that. It is a life change and it will take time but we are all working for a weight loss and better health. yes it may take a long time but like its all ready been mentioned change takes time. You are already a winner, you are doing something positive to change your life around, your wonderful right now and will be wonderful when your skinny but the smile may be bigger :) 

You know, Andrea, I think in many ways you're my hero. You are doing a great job, and you're doing it with thought. I mean, you actually THINK about everything - the whats, why's, when's, how's. You're practically analyzing yourself and figuring out your triggers - whether they be foods or situations or even specific people. That's what's going to pull you through this, and that's what is most likely different about this time than any other time you've attempted to lose weight. You ARE doing it. I don't believe anyone out there is doing it BETTER than you are, nor with as much thought and intention and self-examination. All the while, sharing your insights and your newfound knowledge and discoveries with others in the same situation you are. It's almost like witnessing someone giving birth to themselves : ) You go, girl! 

That's one of the nicest things anyone has ever said to me. Thanks so much!redwinelover And Lenny I always treasure your comments. 

Andrea, when you first joined FS, you were so sad and depressed, and not even sure you could use this WOE for a day. Look at you now. You are much more confident, much happier, more positive, and as an added bonus, YOU HAVE LOST 30 POUNDS!!!!!! Wow, how brilliant is that?? You have every right to be proud, so SMILE!! You are...........BEAUTIFUL!!  

Yessssssssssssss thats all I have to say (with a happy dance on the side ;)