if you are optimistic bad things don't phase you... positive bliss all the time
12 Feb 17 by member: johnmwoya
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I remember being told not to worry about the glass being half empty or half full - refill it with optimism, joy and friendship
12 Feb 17 by member: minitata
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That's a good point, Minitata, they never tell you to consider what the cup is all about or what happens to be in the cup. If I've got a twelve ounce cup containing six ounces of poison, half empty or half full hardly matters.
12 Feb 17 by member: @philrmcknight
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LOL! Good point Phil! I never liked that saying anyways. I see the good and bad=realist. Sometimes the bad things NEED to phase you because maybe change is needed. Realists.....the only ones who really know whats going on! LOL!
12 Feb 17 by member: Arabella66
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I trained in the school of Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT), Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), Bandura and Elllis, realists, one could say.
12 Feb 17 by member: @philrmcknight
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12 Feb 17 by member: RiverRes
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Well said my brother. We all strive to find those words.
12 Feb 17 by member: warrenwinter
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My thoughts, exactly, Phil. :)
12 Feb 17 by member: Mom2Boxers
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phill an intellectual question what if you have a situation where intransigence is right for you where you need to fix the environment not adapt to it discuss
12 Feb 17 by member: johnmwoya
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Are you trying to gain now?
12 Feb 17 by member: 20-to-loose
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12 Feb 17 by member: Mistybenner
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You made me think today, Phil. I never thought of the glass half full/empty thing the way you did. This is a much better way of looking at it!
12 Feb 17 by member: XshapeshiftX
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Thanks, Misty, I try to keep it real. 20-T-L, no not trying to gain, I was reflecting on being at goal, how not so long ago it was that I was 450 pounds, and how regardless, we all should like who we are. John, an example that comes to mind is being in an abusive relationship, one should never accept that as normal and adapt but should do everything they can to do just what you suggest, change the environment; new playgrounds and new playmates is the jingo that comes to mind.
12 Feb 17 by member: @philrmcknight
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Thank you. I needed to hear that.
12 Feb 17 by member: ellen vanderberg
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phill first i like your examples in conclusion we need to change and also not to change depending on the situation we are facing. this to me is what I mean as not being phased, that value system cannot be distorted by reactionary behavior. we at times need to be the mold or the clay........... whats your take
13 Feb 17 by member: johnmwoya
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My take is that situations aren't static and that ad hoc hypothesis aren't a bad thing in practical application.
13 Feb 17 by member: @philrmcknight
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13 Feb 17 by member: Arabella66
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13 Feb 17 by member: redgirl1974
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phill ive seen from Fs many people seem to eat from stress from bad days at work from many posts being the behavioral specialist can you give them advice on workplace toxicity and ways of recuperating without the eating binge I think this will be helpful
16 Feb 17 by member: johnmwoya
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Think before you eat, hold yourself accountable, etc., etc., blah blah, nothing they don't already know. That's the thing with weight loss, most of it is intuitive. Sure, you run across people that are truly clueless, have no idea how to lose, what to do, but that's pretty rare. More often you might clue someone in on something they've never heard of, but truly, in the Internet age, you would have to deliberately NOT want to know. At any rate, the battle is personal and real but you've got to do it to win it. I can explain to you how to do a butterfly stroke all day long but if all you do is practice the butterfly stroke on the side of the pool you'll never be swimming, amirite?
16 Feb 17 by member: @philrmcknight
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