I know it's hard, but you just have to figure out if you want it .. or you want to be thinner and more beautiful. I don't say that lightly either, b/c it's is way harder than just about anything else I've tried to do! You could always either let them know that you would appreciate something else instead of a cake or go low carb with another recipe to replace to the cake. They do have some low carb ice cream at the grocery store but I don't suggest eating too much of that, lol. If you've had it ... you know what I'm talking about. I only have that on occassions where I feel like an emerengcy might occur and I need that to fall back on. Good Luck and God Bless!